A Gen Z problem or all guilty?
An intern told a resident she would be absent the next day. Later, when I asked why she wasn’t on duty, she replied confidently, “I got permission from a resident.”
The resident was surprised. He remembered being informed, but had never granted explicit approval. To him, the notification was a courtesy—not consent.
When he raised the issue, the intern seemed defensive. “But I told you, and you didn’t object,” she insisted. He clarified that simply being told about her absence didn’t mean he had authorised it: “Awareness is not the same as agreement.”
Despite the explanation, the intern still struggled to see the difference between notifying and seeking permission.
Introspection
1. Is “I am going out” the same as” can I go out?”.
2. Why is there so much confusion?
Reflection
🧎🏻♂️Obtaining permission requires explicit consent or approval from the other party who then gives the go ahead to proceed with a specific action.
Informing or giving a heads-up is a courtesy notification to let someone know about plans or actions, without seeking or implying approval.
Sometimes people honestly mistake simply sharing information with asking for input/permission but others intentionally blur the line by using the act of “informing” as a subtle strategy to make decisions seem collaborative, while quietly dodging any blame if those decisions backfire.
Recognising the difference between expressing intent and seeking permission can reduce misunderstandings, ease communication, and preserve harmony in relationships by helping to avoid crossing boundaries, eroding trust, and creating unnecessary tension
Clarity is kindness. When intentions are transparent—whether asking or simply informing—confusion fades and respect grows.
Peace lives in precision.
Serenity
Don’t speak to inform and presume—ask to be clear and confirm.
May clarity take stress out of our relationships. Amen
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Very much in agreement. Inasmuch as something has become a routine doesn’t make it normal. When the right time for accountability comes, the protocols will be applied to scrutinise every step in the processes and there will be no compromises. We all need to follow the rules devoid of cronyism and familiarity. Very insightful article.