Matters of the Heart Advice Column
Question from a Reader
Hello Lady Suella,
I am 18 years old and currently in my final year at university. Throughout my time in school, even though I dress well, smile often, and do my best to look good, I have never had anyone propose to me or express that they admire me. Sometimes, this makes me feel odd and neglected. I am beginning to wonder if there is something wrong with me.
—Concerned Student
Lady Suella’s Response
My dear, let me reassure you: there is absolutely nothing wrong with you. At 18, you are still very young, and your focus right now should be on your personal growth, education, and discovering yourself—not worrying about who has or hasn’t proposed.
Love and admiration come in their own time. The fact that no one has approached you yet does not mean you are less beautiful, less worthy, or less lovable. In fact, it may simply mean that the right person hasn’t come along, and that is perfectly okay.
Continue being your cheerful, well-presented self. Dress decently, treat others kindly, and stay positive. When the time is right, you will naturally attract the right person who will value you for who you are.
If you are a Christian, I also encourage you to pray and ask God to connect you with the right partner in His time. Remember, relationships built on God’s timing and foundation are often the most fulfilling.
So, my dear, don’t rush, don’t worry, and don’t compare yourself to others. The best is yet to come.
With love,
Lady Suella
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