Time with Lady Suella…
a) Helloo Lady Suella, I am 18years of age and a student. I have a challenge with my boyfriend who is also in the same University. The whole incident started when he noticed one of my lecturers came to visit me at my hostel. He says he does not understand why a lecturer would come and visit me and not any other student. He suspects I am cheating on him despite my numerous explanations. I love him and do not want him to go but it looks like he wants out. What do you advice please? Abena.
Abena.. first of all, you need to build boundaries to some things, especially knowing that you are in a relationship with someone who also happens to be close by. You should abstain from associations and acts that will cause your boyfriend to raise brows.
In every relationship, trust is key, and once it’s broken, it’s difficult to move on.
If he wants out, give him his space. Stop the lecturer from coming to visit and set boundaries around your life so that, should you two work things out, or should you find yourself in another relationship, history will not repeat itself.
I wish you all the best.
b) Hi Lady, can you please help me on how best to study? It looks like anytime I read, I easily forget. What may be the cause? Someone suggested I drink lots of honey. I don’t know if that would do the magic. What do you think?.. Jojo
Hello Jojo, I will advice that whenever you get back from lectures or any event, take time to rejuvenate the body by sleeping or just relaxing.
Also, check your nutrition. Eat healthy and nutritious meals rather than processed foods.
Have a study timetable and make the best of it. Once you notice that you are exhausted, take a break.
If you are a religious person, please attach prayers. Hope this helps you.
c) Dear Lady Suella, I humbly want you to help me identify some signs that shows that your partner truly loves you. I have been dating this guy for over 2 years. I am unable to say he truly loves me or not because, I think I feel no specialty. He is same with all others.
When someone loves you, they care for you, trust you, do the best things for you, get involved in your progress, and always want you to be on top.
The one who loves will call to check up on you, know how you are doing, help you out the best way he/she can, and give off their very best.
Of course, everyone has their own way of showing love to their partner. If you get to know their way of expressing love, it will help you figure it out. It’s time to observe the person more and know what he only attributes to you and not others.
reach out to your trusted counsellor, lady Suella on +233 50369 5656
